Procrastination: When Hope Gets You Stuck

hopeIt can be easy to see yourself stalling and just label it procrastination. Then what do you do about it?

Do you scold yourself to try to get moving? Sometimes that can spur you on, but the momentum sure doesn’t last. And it feels awful!

What feels better is to look a little closer. If you can see your hidden feelings and beliefs, you can do something with that.

So what’s hiding underneath putting something off? Sometimes the answer has to do with hope. Seems weird, I know. But here’s how it goes.

Let’s take dating as an example (or I should say NOT dating). A client wanted to find a partner. She had intended to start going out, but had put it off for three years.

Now here’s the hope part: She had a beautiful idea of what her partner could be like, and the wonderful life they could share together. She really hoped her dream could play out in real life. But if she started dating, and it didn’t happen, she’d risk losing that hope. Forever. (Or that’s what it seemed like, anyway.)

It felt better to at least have the dream, the hope that she could live happily ever after with her ideal man. If she didn’t date, she wouldn’t have to chance having her vision not come true.

So she didn’t get started. There was too much at stake – that sweet, precious hope. It felt HUGE – and so all-or-nothing.

So there’s the fear: I’ll lose my dream that feels so good when I imagine it. I’d rather have the certainty of feeling good about a dream, than to risk losing it by starting to date.

Sounds a little wacky when you say it out loud, but who says feelings and beliefs make sense?

Once she realized what was going on, we zeroed in on her specific feelings and beliefs connected to this. Then we went deep with EFT to clear what didn’t serve her. It freed her up to start dating so she could create the relationship she longed for.

What are you putting off? Ask yourself, “Am I loving the dream picture too much to move ahead?” Then let’s discover the unhelpful beliefs and emotions that are keeping you stuck and release them with tapping. CONTACT ME for a free 15-minute consult to discuss how you can shift that hopeful dream into real action.

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  • Ije

    LOVE this post janet! it’s so true! i love how you named how losing the hope of what could be is what stops us. that’s so powerful & exactly what i needed to hear. now it makes sense what’s been holding me back on that free workbook i’ve been daydreaming about and i actually feel moved to get to work on it! SO powerful!!! thanks for sharing:-)

  • Thanks, Ije. Isn’t it astonishing how things shift when you see this at work behind the scenes? I’m so glad it helped, and look forward to seeing that free workbook of yours.

  • Bingo! You hit the nail on the head. I was procrastinating like crazy about launching my voice coaching site, the fear was terrible. But I couldn’t figure out what I was so afraid of. Now I know. Thank you!

  • Glad it rang true for you LaVonne. Maybe you’ll catch it early if it shows up again. I love when that happens!

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