EFT Video Tip: Loyalty Can Slow You Down

Your connection to people you care about can interfere with your tapping. But only when you’re not aware of the possibility.

When someone who is important to you shares your issue or the experience it came from, your subconscious can send up a red alert. It says, “I don’t want to release this issue. I’m afraid it means releasing my connection with that person. And I don’t want to do that. So I’m not going to release this issue.”

And your whole tapping session gets bogged down while you try to figure out the problem with your emotional intensity level staying stuck. Sometimes this hidden loyalty factor can make you think that EFT isn’t working.

Not true! You just need to make some adjustments to your tapping. Here are some simple ways to work with loyalty and EFT so you can get better results:

  1. Ask yourself if your issue has connections to anyone you’re close to.
  2. If so, acknowledge it in your setup. Say something like, “Even though a part of me is concerned that letting go of this issue means letting go of [the person’s name], I want to love and accept myself anyway.”
  3. Reassure yourself during your tapping rounds. Say something like, “I’m willing to release this issue, and I know I’m still connected to [the person’s name].”

What’s your experience? Have you run into this when tapping? Let us know by leaving a comment.

If this is a bigger issue for you, contact me for a free consult to discuss possibilities for going deeper with EFT. Let’s shift this challenge to get you where you want to be!

  • David

    Thank you for this info. new to me. haven’t had a situition like this, but sure see it all the time. women that cannot leave an abusive man, because of the loyalty they have on them.  Not to sound funny, but when asked: why don’t you leave him? they respond, ‘I love him’

  • Ruth

    Janet, I’ve been in EFT therapy for 2 years and YOU have cracked it – the loyalty to a father who abandoned me on a daily basis, and the fear of losing my connection to him have held me back and kept me suffering to within an inch of my life. You are a truly gifted therapist. Hope has returned, bless you!

  • Janet

    Ruth, I’m so glad this was helpful to you. Keep up the good work, and keep tapping!

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