It’s time to try again with the thing that didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to. No matter what happened last time. It’s time to expect the best and make it happen. Sound like a challenge for you?
It’s totally do-able. And of course tapping is the quick way to shift your thinking about it. We’ll get to the tapping help in a minute. But first, here are a few mindset shifting tips when you think about trying something again:
Flip Doubts Into Questions
You know all those doubts your mind is coming up with? Take the sting out of them. Take the negativity out of them by turning them into simple observations, without a bunch of meanings attached to them.
Then ask questions. Here’s how this looks:
Doubts: Last time it didn’t work, and that means I’m a failure. That means it will never work. That means I can’t do it. That means I was crazy to try it in the first place. Etc., etc. (you know those crummy things your mind tells you about it).
Now here’s the switch to simple observation: Last time it didn’t work. OK. That’s a fact. You don’t need to assign any meaning to that fact. Let it stand as a factual observation.
And now here are questions that you can ask once you have made that observation:
What could make it work this time? What was missing? What have I already changed that could help it work this time? What else do I need to make it work? Whose help do I need?
Your brain will go right to work to answer these questions. And you’ll come up with solutions and ideas for helping yourself. Can you see the possibilities that come from asking these questions?
Mindset Shift to Work In Your Favor
There’s nothing wrong when your mind brings up things that didn’t work in the past. It doesn’t mean you’re a negative thinker. It doesn’t mean you’re sabotaging anything.
It means your brain is working normally! Your brain is designed to watch for possible danger and alert you to ways that things can go wrong so that you will be safe. Thanks, brain — you’re doing a good job.
Just use those alerts to help you instead of stop you. Use your observations to ask good questions. Then you’re on your way to making good things happen.
Let’s Tap On This
EFT tapping is the perfect shortcut to release crummy feelings or unhelpful beliefs about trying again. So let’s do that now:
- Even though I tried it before and it didn’t work out right, I want to love and accept myself anyway.
- Even though I resist trying again because what if it doesn’t work, I want to respect myself and my feelings about this.
- Even though I feel anxious and frustrated and embarrassed when I think about trying again, I want to love and accept myself, because I’m doing the best I can – the same way I always do.
- All these crummy feelings when I think about trying again.
- I’m afraid things won’t work out.
- I don’t like what happened last time.
- I don’t want to feel that way again.
- I should have known better.
- I should have done better.
- What was I thinking?
- What if it goes the same way?
- I’ll be so disappointed.
- I’ll feel like a failure. A double failure.
- I don’t want to take a chance.
- I already have regrets about the last time.
- I don’t need any more regrets, thank you.
- Maybe I’m not the person to do that.
- Maybe I never should have tried the first time.
- And now I’m thinking of trying again?
- Am I nuts? I must be crazy.
- No way do I want to feel like a flop.
- I don’t want to fall on my face all over again.
- And I’m afraid that will happen if I try another time.
- I just want to run in the other direction as fast as I can.
- Forget about it! I don’t want to take a chance.
Now tap in the positive:
- But what if I did try again?
- I’m a different person today.
- Other things have changed since I tried before.
- So it’s a new day and a new me trying this again.
- What if it worked out?
- How cool would that be?
- What can I learn from the last time I tried?
- I’m choosing to bring that wisdom forward.
- What if I took a close look at what happened?
- That’s where my clues are for making it work this time.
- I’m going to hit the reset button.
- I have experience already, and I’m going to put it to work for me.
- That’s what I’m choosing for myself.
- I’ll keep perfecting this so it will work the way I want it to.
- When my brain creates an alert, I’ll say thanks.
- Is there a question I should look at here?
- I choose curiosity.
- I choose excitement.
- Who knows how this will turn out this time?
- I’m choosing to expect the best, and that feels great!
- I’m loving this adventure of trying again to see what happens.
- And I appreciate my courage!
- Whatever happens, I know I’m going to have a good time with it.
Now take a closer look at your last attempt and ask those helpful questions about your experience. And make your new improved plan to make things work.
What are you going to try again? Leave a comment below and let us know.
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