In fact, if your resistance is big enough, it will never happen. Because you’ll find reasons not to do the tapping. Or you won’t be able to get rid of all of it. So you never get started on the thing you want to do.
I know this from experience. For a long time, I thought I was supposed to completely eliminate fear first, and then get going. Especially because EFT is such a great tool for getting rid of fear.
And if I couldn’t do that, I felt like a failure — like there was either something wrong with my tapping or something wrong with me.
Now I know better.
Sometimes there are hidden reasons why it doesn’t immediately work to zap the fear completely. Maybe I’ll discover those reasons later, but for right now I just want to get moving and I don’t want to feel so much fear about it.
I want to get back in the driver’s seat of my emotional bus. And I want to get rolling. So instead of taking the time and effort to try to kick fear off the bus, I just send it to the back and take off. Can you picture that?
If anxiety usually shows up when you’re facing new things, this is a great way to shrink it so you can move ahead anyway.
Here’s how to tap for this:
First, tell the truth about how you’re feeling while tapping the karate chop point:
- Even though I’m feeling nervous about this, I want to love and accept myself anyway.
- Even though I’ve got fear tangled up in what I want to do next, I respect who I am and I respect my feelings.
- Even though this fear is slowing me down, I choose to find a way to move ahead anyway.
Now tapping around the points:
- I’m really feeling uncomfortable about this.
- I can hear the fear telling me to wait.
- Why do I have to feel like this?
- I can’t think straight when I get nervous.
- I know this is something I want to do.
- So why do I feel so much resistance?
- It doesn’t feel safe to move ahead.
- Maybe I need to wait until I feel calm before I get going on this.
- No, I don’t want to wait.
- I want to go ahead, but it feels like the brakes are on.
- I’m tired of fear slowing me down and steering me off course.
- I’m ready for something different.
Next, tap in the positive:
- I’m choosing to get back in the driver’s seat of my bus.
- Fear, get out of the driver’s seat.
- It’s time for you to move right now.
- I’m driving this bus.
- No, fear, you don’t get to ride shotgun.
- I don’t need you navigating
- It’s time to go to the back of the bus.
- I’m not going to get into a struggle to throw you off.
- Just move on back.
- These seats up front are reserved.
- They’re reserved for my team.
- OK – everybody. Come on board.
- All my cheerleaders and guides, take your seats up front here.
- Fear, sit down back there and be quiet. We’ve heard enough from you.
- OK, team. Ready to roll?
- Here we go!
- We’re on the road and it feels great, doesn’t it?
- Moving in the right direction and picking up speed.
- Who knows what cool things are going to show up?
- I’m getting more excited and more curious at every turn.
- Wow! This feels good!
- Thanks everyone for cheering me on!
Try this and let us know what road you’re heading down — just leave a comment below.
Thanks to David Connor’s Flickrstream for the cool bus photo.