Comments on: Self-Blame or Personal Responsibility? http://janethilts.com/self-blame-or-personal-responsibility Fri, 18 May 2012 21:22:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Anonymous http://janethilts.com/self-blame-or-personal-responsibility/comment-page-1#comment-435 Anonymous Sat, 22 Oct 2011 00:10:00 +0000 http://clearing-pathways.com/?p=2418#comment-435 Yes! And those thought and behavior patterns that don't serve you well are perfect places to focus your EFT for releasing. Then you can follow with affirmative tapping on those healthy habits you want to build. Looks like you have your tapping plan laid out perfectly for you, Krishna.  Yes! And those thought and behavior patterns that don’t serve you well are perfect places to focus your EFT for releasing. Then you can follow with affirmative tapping on those healthy habits you want to build. Looks like you have your tapping plan laid out perfectly for you, Krishna. 

]]> By: Krishna http://janethilts.com/self-blame-or-personal-responsibility/comment-page-1#comment-434 Krishna Fri, 21 Oct 2011 10:44:00 +0000 http://clearing-pathways.com/?p=2418#comment-434 So true. When it has become a deeply engrained strategy and habit, I have found that beyond fixing, punishing and regretting other negative thought and behavior patterns tend to emerge such as: -self-judging: "I just can't get over myself, push myself to succeed. I failed again." -negative generalization: "Life is just unfair and difficult." -denying: "It just isn't worth it." -fatalism :"Maybe this just isn't the right time or thing for me." -anger at self and others, feeling tempted to blame others or life, -avoidance of feelings and habits of distraction. These old patterns sometimes pop up when I try to change the habit - which makes it hard to build new healthy habits such as -actively facing all feelings -taking actions -accept oneself without judgment  while moving forward with ones life without feeling sorry for oneself. So true. When it has become a deeply engrained strategy and habit, I have found that beyond fixing, punishing and regretting other negative thought and behavior patterns tend to emerge such as:

-self-judging: “I just can’t get over myself, push myself to succeed. I failed again.”
-negative generalization: “Life is just unfair and difficult.”
-denying: “It just isn’t worth it.”
-fatalism :”Maybe this just isn’t the right time or thing for me.”
-anger at self and others, feeling tempted to blame others or life,
-avoidance of feelings and habits of distraction.

These old patterns sometimes pop up when I try to change the habit – which makes it hard to build new healthy habits such as
-actively facing all feelings
-taking actions
-accept oneself without judgment 
while moving forward with ones life without feeling sorry for oneself.

]]> By: Janet Hilts | Oops As A Power Word http://janethilts.com/self-blame-or-personal-responsibility/comment-page-1#comment-343 Janet Hilts | Oops As A Power Word Thu, 23 Sep 2010 20:40:45 +0000 http://clearing-pathways.com/?p=2418#comment-343 [...] about it. With oops, you don’t close in on yourself and stay stuck in looking at what went bad or how you were wrong. Oops keeps you [...] [...] about it. With oops, you don’t close in on yourself and stay stuck in looking at what went bad or how you were wrong. Oops keeps you [...]

]]> By: Janet http://janethilts.com/self-blame-or-personal-responsibility/comment-page-1#comment-276 Janet Wed, 30 Jun 2010 00:31:23 +0000 http://clearing-pathways.com/?p=2418#comment-276 Love your point, Rod, about using EFT to "get clarity on what you can accept responsibility for." It can really help every step of the way, can't it? Thanks for adding to the conversation. Love your point, Rod, about using EFT to “get clarity on what you can accept responsibility for.” It can really help every step of the way, can’t it? Thanks for adding to the conversation.

]]> By: Rod Sherwin http://janethilts.com/self-blame-or-personal-responsibility/comment-page-1#comment-275 Rod Sherwin Tue, 29 Jun 2010 21:47:36 +0000 http://clearing-pathways.com/?p=2418#comment-275 Such an important post. Sometimes the people who accept personal responsibility for themselves then over compensate and accept responsibility for everything that happens in the world! The whole LOA crap about creating the entire reality and create hurricanes, earthquakes etc is taking the personal responsiblity too far. Acknowledge your part but blame is just not useful. I really like the idea of asking yourself the question "Do I want to change something?" as this helps identifity what you can take responsibility for. If you have lost 3 jobs in a row because you don't get on with your boss, then you might want to change something. If you lost a job because one boss was difficult it may be them not you. It can be tricky to find that line. And yes EFT definitely helps get clarity on what you can accept responsibility for and help you make the desired change. Such an important post. Sometimes the people who accept personal responsibility for themselves then over compensate and accept responsibility for everything that happens in the world! The whole LOA crap about creating the entire reality and create hurricanes, earthquakes etc is taking the personal responsiblity too far.

Acknowledge your part but blame is just not useful. I really like the idea of asking yourself the question “Do I want to change something?” as this helps identifity what you can take responsibility for. If you have lost 3 jobs in a row because you don’t get on with your boss, then you might want to change something. If you lost a job because one boss was difficult it may be them not you. It can be tricky to find that line. And yes EFT definitely helps get clarity on what you can accept responsibility for and help you make the desired change.

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