EFT – Resisting Letting Go

Sometimes when you tap you don’t make much progress with releasing your issue. There’s some inner resistance to letting go. In EFT jargon, the resistance is called a reversal or energy reversal. When you tap, the energy is not going in the direction you want (releasing), but is stuck in reverse (holding on).

What It Means

Resistance is not uncommon. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It really just means your system is doing a good job of protecting you.

Our body-minds are set up to do what it takes to maintain balance. Any change upsets the balance. Whatever ways you’ve managed to carry around that problem and still function has worked – to some degree. So your system says, “I’m not changing that. I’m not letting go. Better stick with what we know.”

Not A Surprise

Any issue we’ve had for more than a day or two likely has resistance attached to it. Not on a conscious level probably, but on a subconscious level. It’s a natural defense mechanism that kicks in so we can keep on functioning. Think about it: If you had no resistance to letting it go, you would have already let it go. Right? You wouldn’t even need to be doing EFT on the problem in the first place!

Don’t Fight It

Resisting resistance doesn’t help. You’ve already got a little tug-of-war going on. There’s a part of you that wants to let go. And another part that’s holding on. Don’t add a third part to the mix by being mad at yourself or feeling ashamed. Denying the resistance won’t help either. Your best choice is to relax – if you can – and accept the resistance.

What To Do About It

Use EFT to eliminate the resistance. There are a few different ways to do this. Try them out and see what works for you.

  • Stop tapping on your original issue. Treat your resistance as a separate issue and use EFT on it. Then come back to your original issue.
  • Work it into your setup statements like this: “Even though I have this (problem) and I’m resisting letting go of it, I love and accept myself anyway.”
  • Sometimes you need an outside perspective. You might need to work with a practitioner to clear that resistance. It can be hard to get around our own blind spots well enough to really see the problem.

What’s your experience with resistance? Leave a comment below so we can all keep learning.

  • Why don’t the pain pills my doctor gives me work? I ‘m trying natural healing with dandilion root tea..coenzyme q10 and flax seed with berries. I stay in constant pain, my back, neck shoulders chest, legs..hips..mostly my spine..i hurt so bad..what can i do

  • Anonymous

    Hi Betty,

    I can’t answer your question about the pain pills. But you might find your answer by using EFT to help with your pain. Here are two articles about different ways to use tapping for pain relief:
    * EFT for Physical Problems – http://janethilts.com/eft-phys-problems
    * EFT for Pain: Get to the Core – http://janethilts.com/eft-pain

    And this is a podcast on EFT for Pain, where you can listen and tap along:
    * EFT for Pain – Podcast – http://www.blogtalkradio.com/moving-forward-with-eft/2011/05/26/eft-for-pain

    I wish you all the best, Betty, and know that pain-free Betty is getting ready to show up! I hope these approaches give you the key to releasing whatever has that pain hanging around. Be gentle with yourself.


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