It’s easy to define where you don’t want to be — what you want to get rid of. Maybe you want to get rid of some weight. Or anxiety when you talk with prospects. Or your lack of focus at work. We all have something we want to get rid of.
But where do you want to be instead? What’s your destination?
Seems like a no-brainer to answer that, doesn’t it? And the quick answers ARE no-brainers: be thin, be calm, be focused. OK.
But if you go deeper with that question of where you want to be, your expanded answers will get you where you want to go much faster. Whether you’re using EFT or not.
Here’s what I mean.
When you think of a challenge you want to move past, ask yourself these questions:
- Where do I want to be instead — specifically? What are the details?
- Why do I want to go there? What are the benefits to getting there?
- What difference will it make to get there? To me? To others?
- How will I feel when I get there?
Coming up with your answers radically alters the whole process of change you want to create. When you ask about those details, you accomplish 3 big things:
- You create excitement about getting there, which pulls you towards your goal like it’s a magnet.
- Your fears and limiting beliefs intensify about reaching your goal. Wait – this IS a good thing! Now you know what you’re dealing with and why you’re not there yet. Now you can find specific solutions that work. (Bring on the EFT.)
- You have a goal you can actually commit to. It’s clear. It’s solid. It’s real. You have claimed your destination by defining it.
This is the first step I use with my EFT clients because it sharpens our focus and shortens our sessions. Try it for yourself and see how zeroing in on exactly where you want to be gives you crystal clear feelings and beliefs to release, and vivid details to use with affirmative tapping.
If you want tips to help you get more specific with your destination, listen to a radio chat I recently did about this topic.
What works for you? Let us know by leaving a comment.