Let Go of the Pain and Hold Onto the Love

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Physical pain is so life-altering — especially when it doesn’t let up. And it’s a real energy drain. But you don’t need me to tell you that. EFT is such a great tool for relieving pain. If it hasn’t been working for you, maybe you’re missing some aspect of it. Here are some ways to get the best results for yourself when you’re tapping to release pain.

Immediate Relief

When you have pain, one way you can help yourself is to simply tap on the symptom of pain itself with straightforward EFT. You know – Start with the setup: “Even though I have this pain, I want to love myself anyway.”

Then tap on the pain, being very specific as to its location – for instance, “this pain in the front of my right knee.” For many people, this is a highly effective way to reduce the level of pain – and maybe even get rid of it completely – especially if it’s a new pain, or something temporary like hitting your thumb with a hammer, or banging your knee on something.

Getting To The Core

Chronic pain can be a different story, and often a complex issue. This means it has different aspects or layers to it and it might take some different approaches to release it. Especially if your goal is to clear it so it doesn’t return.

Here are the steps to make that happen:

1. One way to start is by looking back to when the pain first started. What happened? Was there an event directly connected to the pain – like an injury or illness? Good – there’s some tapping information. Use EFT on that event, clearing any emotional charge connected to it.
2. Now take ANOTHER look and ask “What was going on in my life at that time, or just beforehand?” The answer to this question may hold the key to the reason the pain is still hanging around. Was there a major life event – a move, a death, an illness of a loved one, a separation, a loss, a failure, or something else that caused major unwanted feelings? Use EFT on that event to clear the trauma and lingering effects of it. This can have a profound positive effect on your pain relief. Even if you see no connection whatsoever.

   We can’t always tell what’s linked to what in our body-mind-heart-energy system. But you can trust your body to tell you what it is when you ask the questions. And if you get no answer, then here’s what you can do: Tap on the willingness to know what would be helpful. And see if you’re getting some clarity about some other links to the pain you experience. This is excellent information – a great starting place for doing EFT – either on your own or with a practitioner. If you want some help with this, listen to the tap-along on Moving Forward With EFT Radio – EFT For Pain.

3. Next, investigate all your feelings about the pain itself. And write those down. For example: anxiety about what’s causing it, worry about what the future could hold, sadness about what it has kept you from doing, feelings towards health care providers and medications or therapies, etc. Pay particular attention to anger and all its forms – frustration, irritation, impatience, feeling pissed off, feeling really mad. And the target of the anger – people, circumstances, your body, side effects of meds. And be sure to look at any way in which you’re blaming yourself – what you should or shouldn’t have done, how you think you contributed to it or caused it to go on, etc. List all of these feelings and then use EFT to release them.
4. Now take a look at all your beliefs about the pain. These could stem from what you’ve read or been told by your doctor or other people,from reading, or from your own experience. The source doesn’t matter. Just make a list of them. For example: The pain is caused by x______; it will take x____ amount of time to go away; everyone with this condition experiences pain; I’m expecting too much to ask for it to go away; I should get used to it; etc. Then do EFT on those beliefs.
5. And this last step can show you some tapping information that may really surprise you! Imagine what you would be doing if you didn’t have the pain. Really get into it. Fill in the details of your scenario. Then ask yourself what’s in the way of that happening. And really listen – once again, be willing to know. You may find some hidden blocks here. There may be some unrelated fears or beliefs tangled up in there and that’s actually what’s keeping the pain hanging around. You just never know until you look.And of course, use EFT on those obstacles – whatever limiting beliefs and unwanted feelings show up. Be sure to release any kind of self-blame or self-scolding connected here, too.

So those are some ways you can tap to help with pain to completely release it. I’ll review them quickly again, in a nutshell. You can tap on the intensity or charge associated with these things:

1. Any event directly connected to the origin of the pain.
2. What was going on in your life at the time the pain started (or just before it).
3. All your feelings about the pain.
4. Any beliefs about the pain.
5. Imagine your future without the pain and tap on any obstacles that come up.

Remember that you can always tap for the willingness to know if you come up with a blank on any of these steps.

Bonus Tip

Here’s one last tip for letting go of pain. Stop claiming it! You’ll notice that in all the references to pain, I said the pain. I didn’t say YOUR pain, and you don’t want to say MY pain. Quit owning it and help it to move on out by disconnecting from it first with your words and then with EFT.

A reader asked the other day if EFT can be used for gluten intolerance that celiacs experience. That inspired me to pass on this great tapping technique to deal with any kind of sensitivity to substances – including hay fever. There’s really no need to resign yourself to a lifetime of bad reactions.

EFT is the perfect tool to eliminate sensitivities and allergies. This includes reactions to foods, pets, plants, fumes — any substance that your body reacts to in a negative way. No matter what the trouble-causing substance, the approach is pretty much the same.

Where To Begin

First, ask yourself when the allergy or sensitivity first appeared. Then ask if anything traumatic occurred in your life around that time — or within the few months beforehand.

If not, ask yourself if you experienced any trauma directly connected to the substance you’re sensitive to (cat scratch, choked on milk, etc.). Then use EFT to clear that trauma — either on your own, or with a practitioner. Eliminating the effects of that related event often results in the end of the allergy.

If There’s No Remembered Trauma

If nothing occurs to you in answer to those two trauma questions, try the following:

1. Place the substance or food in a container of glass, metal or pottery (not plastic or paper). For airborne allergies, place a bowl of water outside for a few hours, or wave a damp towel around in the air to collect particles. Then pour the water into a jar or put the towel in a bowl. For dust, pet hair, carpet, etc., gather a little and put it in a jar with a lid on it (or have somebody else do that for you).
2. Then hold the container in your lap (for tapping with both hands) or simply touch the container with one hand while tapping with the other. Please note: When tapping, you can refer to “the substances in this jar”, or the “stuff on this towel” – You don’t have to know what it is causing the problem to be able to clear it.

Start Using EFT

• Do your setup 3 times: “Even though I have this allergy/sensitivity to this ______ (substance), I love and accept myself anyway.”
• Tap Round 1: “This sensitivity to ________ (substance).” (A round is a complete cycle of all the tapping points.)
• Round 2: “I ask my body to release this sensitivity now.”
• Round 3: “I ask my body to easily accept this _______ (substance) as safe and healthy.”
• Round 4: Alternate the positive and negative. “This sensitivity…,” “I ask my body to…”
• Round 5: “I now have a completely healthy relationship with this _______ (substance).”
• Great option: Tap a few more rounds of gratitude for this healing, etc.

Persistence Pays

You may need to repeat this process every day for a week to totally clear the sensitivity. If you’re still concerned about a possible food sensitivity, you can always tap on it before you eat it, too. Just put one hand on the plate, and tap with the other hand. Use the phrases suggested above.

True Stories

I’ve used this process myself with great results. I experienced sinus problems from outgassing from something in my home – new carpet, padding, and/or linoleum. I didn’t know which was causing it, so I sat on the floor where all three came together. I held one hand on that spot while I tapped with the other. After one session, all sensitivity was gone for good. My sinuses cleared right up. Great!

While visiting New York City, I experienced a mystery rash which spread a little each day. After about 5 days, I decided to try this. I set a bowl of water outside for two hours to gather airborne particles (pollen, smog, etc.). Next, I gathered dust from a storage area I’d been working in and added that to the water.

I poured the water into a jar, held the jar on my lap, and followed the above sequence — twice a day for two days and the rash disappeared! I’ll never know exactly what the cause was, but that’s OK with me.

Try this and let us know how it works for you in the comments below. We’d love to hear your story!

When you have a physical challenge going on, chances are good there is some emotion connected to it. Conversely, sometimes if you’re tapping on an emotional issue, you’ll feel pain or tension somewhere in your body.

So How Do I Tap?

EFT is very flexible. You can focus on either the emotion or the unwanted physical sensation. If one way gives you faster results, you can stick with that. Or switch back and forth between the body and the heart — the physical and the emotional.

You can also do a little detective work to find out the connection between the two.

Starting with the Physical

Sometimes you’re only aware of a physical problem. Maybe it’s back pain. Or tension in your shoulders. Or congestion in your chest. Regardless of the apparent cause, you can use EFT to help yourself. Really! That means it doesn’t matter if you caught a cold, have spinal stenosis, or your neck hurts because you slept wrong last night. You can still feel better by tapping.

You can start with tapping only on the symptom — the physical sensation. If you can clear the problem that way, great! But if you can’t get to zero, ask yourself a few questions:

• Was there a disturbing thing that happened shortly before this problem started? The emotional charge from that event may be tangled up in your energy system with your physical problem. So use tapping to clear the emotions of that event. See if your physical problem is reduced or gone.
• If this symptom could talk, what would it say to me? Just get quiet and tune in to the pain (or whatever) and ask that question. You may be very surprised with the answer. After you get over the surprise, use tapping on your answer.
• If the location of this problem could talk, what would it say? For instance, ask your back or shoulder or head what it has to say. Then tap on that.
• Get literal. For example, if you have a pain in the neck, ask yourself who in your life is a pain in the neck. Then tap on your issues with that person. If your stuffed-up head feels like it’s going to explode, ask yourself what situation in your life makes you feel like like your head would explode when you think about it. Then use tapping on that issue. If your ears are plugged up, ask yourself what you don’t want to hear. See what I mean?

Starting with the Emotions

If you know you have strong feelings connected to the cause of the problem, you can start there. Those emotional blocks can keep that pain or cold hanging around. Did a trauma cause your back ache? Did you have surgery on your shoulder? Are you mad at the person who gave you the cold?

Tap away those emotions and you may get good relief from your physical problem. Even simple things like being frustrated because the cold is wearing you out can make it worse. So use EFT on any emotional component you can find.

Tap on the Physical to Avoid Emotional Pain

Sometimes a physical problem started from a really painful event. Tapping on a physical sensation is a great way to avoid re-traumatizing yourself. Just stay focused on the body symptom and tap it all the way down to zero. For instance, if your stomach tightens up just thinking about that awful accident, just tap on that stomach tightness. Stay with it and tap it down to a zero intensity level.

It may not completely clear the all the emotions from that event. But it will reduce the emotional charge on it. Then when you go to focus directly on that event, you’ll be starting at a much lower intensity level, and it will clear quickly.

Physical Symptoms Changing During Tapping

It’s really common for physical feelings to move around — right while you’re tapping. Maybe a frontal headache moves to the base of your skull. Or your shoulder pain moves to your mid-back. Or the right side of your nose was stuffed up, and now it’s clear. But your ear is stopped up.

Another thing that can happen is that the quality of the sensation changes. Pain might turn to tingling. A focused stabbing pain may change to a spread-out dull ache. Tension might turn to itching. It’s pretty wild how your system morphs one thing into another.

It’s a good sign! Those changes are proof that you are shifting the energy. It’s on its way out. Whether the symptom is moving or changing, just keep tapping. Gary Craig (founder of EFT) calls it “Chasing The Pain.”

Just stay with your tapping all the down to a zero intensity level. Then come back here and let us know how it went for you by leaving  a comment.

Today a friend asked how to use EFT to help with a stomach problem, and that’s what spurred me on to let you all know about this healing affirmations list.

I have been using this technique and sharing it with clients for a long time. In fact, this list of affirmations is my primary healthcare provider! I nip things in the bud when they first show up, and stay really healthy this way. Thanks to EFT Master Lindsay Kenny for the basis of the list, which I have fine-tuned to maximize results.

Tapping in these healing affirmations is a way that you can help yourself heal from any kind of physical issue* — whether it’s pain, muscle tension, flu, or a chronic condition or disease. Your body is eager to operate in its best state of perfect health. It is just waiting for the signals to do that. It’s astonishing what your system can do on its own with some conscious nudges from you focusing on good outcomes.

Just insert your body’s challenge in the blanks as you tap on these affirmative sentences. (Click here to download a copy of the list.)

There is no set-up phrase needed. Just tap, moving to a new point with each phrase. Feel free to add your own phrases. Be specific (e.g., “pain behind my left knee”).

• I give myself permission to release this ______ and anything connected to it.
• I ask my body to release this ___________ and anything connected to it.
• I ask my body to send healing energy to my __________.
• Thanks, body, for responding so quickly.
• I allow my body to correct this condition and restore my health.
• It’s natural for my body to be healthy and strong.
• I’m grateful for the health I do have.
• Each of my cells knows how to heal this condition and anything connected to it.
• I ask my body to heal itself now.
• My system has a natural wisdom for healing, and I ask my system to heal itself now.
• Thank you, body, for hearing my requests and responding.
• I ask my body to relax and eliminate this _______ and anything connected to it.
• I trust my body to reverse this __________ condition and anything connected to it.
• I know my gift of wholeness and health is already on the way.
• I trust that my body knows how to heal this condition.
• Well-being is natural for me. Thank you, body, for restoring well-being.
• Optimal health is what I expect and what I want.
• I ask and trust my body to release this __________ and anything connected to it.
• I’m grateful that my body let me know I had this problem. Now I ask my body to release the __________ that made me aware.
• I ask my body to completely heal this ________ .
• Thanks, body, for responding so quickly.

If you want to go deeper using EFT for healing, you’ll find further techniques you can use at EFT For Physical Issues.* And to get the most from your medications, check out EFT for Great Medication Results.*

Here’s to your very best health! Let me know how it goes for you by leaving a comment below.

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*Please note: These techniques are not intended as a substitute for advice from your healthcare provider. But they make a great addition to any health regimen.

Did you know that you can use EFT to help your pets? It’s very effective and fast and can bring great relief to your animals AND your checkbook.

Essential: First Calm Yourself

Unless it’s such an emergency that there’s no time to do this, take a minute to use EFT on yourself first. Clear (or at least reduce) your issues about your pet’s problem. These might include:

• Worry or anxiety about your pet’s injury or condition
• Anger at a person or circumstance contributing to the problem
• Guilt that you contributed to it or didn’t notice it sooner
• Doubt that tapping can help

In my experience, if you’re too upset, that negative energy can block the success of EFT healing for your pet.

NOTE: If there’s no time to do EFT on yourself, at least take a deep breath and visualize setting your own concerns on a shelf until later. It works!

If Your Pet Lets You Tap

Some animals have no resistance to your tapping on them. If that’s the case, do it! Some people tap on points equivalent to our own points. That’s not always possible, however. Most pets respond to gentle tapping up and down their spine, so you can try that. The top of the head is another place that’s generally easy to get to and is effective.

When You Can’t Tap On Them

There are reasons why it won’t work to tap on your pet. For example:

• You can’t dive into the fish tank.
• Your pet is too upset (or stuck in a tree).
• You’re already at the vet and can’t physically tap on your pet.

Now What?

Now you can tap on yourself on behalf of your pet. It’s called surrogate tapping or proxy tapping. You just pretend you’re the animal and tap on yourself, saying what the animal might say.

Here’s a sample of how I helped my cat who was hiding in a corner with a large cactus thorn in his mouth, and a piece of cactus stuck to his inner thigh. I skipped the setup.
Then I just tapped around the points on my own face and body, saying:

This really hurts and I don’t know what’s going on. Mom loves me and she’s helping me now. I can trust Mom to help me. I’m feeling calm now and my breathing is slowing down. It’s safe for me to let Mom help me. I know she loves me. I can feel all the love right now. It’s OK for me to let Mom come close [he can be very stand-offish}. I can relax now and let Mom help me. It’s OK for Mom to tap on my head. It will feel really good to let Mom tap on my back.

He calmed down and let me remove the cactus without resisting — amazing for his personality! And he allowed me to tap a little bit up and down his spine. Then he walked away, breathing much more slowly than before and appearing normal.

I went back to tapping on myself as if I were him, saying:
I ask my body to heal itself quickly. I don’t need any reaction, so I let go of any swelling. I ask my body to easily let go of any thorns that might be left. I feel like my old self, and I’m ready to enjoy life again. I love being tapped on and I love Mom to help me if I’m hurt. I’ll remember this next time I get myself into trouble.

Who knows? Maybe he will!

Other Animal Examples

Some other ways I’ve used it are:

• To help a cat heal from a coyote bite wound on his leg
• To calm an old dog who freaks out when her owner leaves the house
• To clear some unknown obstruction in the throat of a coughing cat
• To calm a lizard down so I could catch it to put it outside
• To get a yellow jacket to leave our picnic table!

Animal EFT Experts

There are tapping practitioners that specialize in working with animals, who go far beyond these simple guidelines. You can easily find them online through Google or at emofree.com.

In the meantime, this is a great way to help your pets when they’re in trouble — and to enjoy your picnics more. Just trust yourself, knowing you have the animal’s best interest at heart. Say whatever comes to mind. Give it a try and let us know how it goes by posting a comment below.

To read about surrogate tapping for other people, check out Tapping For Others – What’s The Deal?

Sometimes tapping issues can be a little tricky to sort out. There are the feelings you have and the plain old truthful facts about it. If your emotions on the topic are strong, the separation between facts and feelings can be hard to find. Or you may think it’s ALL feelings, or even ALL facts.

Maybe you’re thinking, “So what? I’ll just start tapping and it will all sort itself out.” That is one approach, and it may be successful. But it can help to at least be aware of the facts versus feelings components of your issue.

In The Beginning

Tangling up facts and feelings can cause resistance to tapping on the issue in the first place. Let me give you an example. A client (“Ben”) was extremely uncomfortable at networking events. He mumbled, avoided people and felt nauseous. He felt ashamed that he didn’t know how to clearly describe his coaching practice.

Ben saw no point to tapping on this issue because he was sure he just needed to come up with his perfect 30-second intro speech. But the fact was that his dread of networking came up any time he thought of writing his speech. And that fear stifled his ability to think creatively to write a good intro speech. With this tangled knot, there was no way out of his dilemma.

What’s The Answer?

Here’s what we did: We acknowledged that it is a fact that he could benefit from writing a good intro speech. We acknowledged that he had strong feelings of fear and shame when networking.

We tapped away the fears and shame and limiting beliefs and here’s what happened: He went to a networking event the next day and had fun! He still didn’t have a good intro speech, but he wasn’t concerned about it. He was able to connect with people anyway, which is the whole point of networking.

So the fact that he needed a good speech didn’t change. But we untangled it from the feelings. Now Ben has the confidence that with some focused effort, he can craft a good speech. And it’s still a fact that when he does, his networking will probably produce better results.

Don’t Forget To Check

Self-blame about an issue can be easily overlooked. But it can anchor other emotions so that they’re hard to clear. So when you untangle your own knots of facts and feelings, be sure to check for that. In Ben’s case, the self-blame was strong related to his unwritten intro speech. We cleared the other feelings and beliefs more quickly by starting off with eliminating that blame.

EFT is all about balance. It’s a method to bring your system back to the naturally healthy and peaceful emotional state that is true balance. Essentially, EFT clears the excesses, bringing you back to the center.

Keep Your Own Tapping In Balance

Tapping is a terrific way to clear unwanted, negative feelings, events and physical problems. And that’s great. It’s so fast and so effective; what more could you ask for?

But if you use EFT a lot, it’s possible to get your point of view a little lopsided – focused mainly on problems. Even if you’re steadily eliminating those problems, you may be missing out.

You need to have some focus on the good stuff, too. Not just the absence of the negative. If this seems like splitting hairs, think about it a little more.

Musical Variety

What if that unwanted issue were a kind of music that you really dislike? It’s too loud or too sad or too annoying. So the EFT clears out that crummy tune and brings you to silence. Silence is a wonderful thing, and sure beats listening to that music you can’t stand.

Now here’s another issue you’re going to tap on (more crummy music). Then the blessed relief of silence (clearing with tapping). And again. And once more. And another time. Back to silence.

So what’s wrong with this picture? Silence is not the only option other than lousy music. What about some good music? Let’s get a little balance in here!

It’s possible to use EFT to make your own good “music” – some really positive focus. Here are some ways to create that balance.

On Your Own

Before you start tapping on a problem, take a minute to back off from the issue. Imagine what will be different when it’s no longer bothering you. Get a clear picture of the best possible outcome. Imagine how you’ll feel when you’re there. Yum!

Then come back to your issue and tap it away. You may find you’ll release it more quickly this way as your body-mind has a clear target for where it’s headed. This can lower your resistance to releasing the problem.

For the final few rounds of your tapping, tap in the positive. Use Pat Carrington’s Choices methods, or just make up your own positive statements. Include words of gratitude for being done with the problem. Add a round about how much you’re looking forward to new possibilities, going into detail about what those possibilities are.

Tap In Affirmations

Regularly tapping in affirmations is a great way to keep your balance. Click here to read a separate post about that.

How do YOU keep your balance with EFT? Let us hear how it goes for you and leave a comment below.

Once you’re into a tapping session, it’s not unusual for another issue to show up — something a little different from what you started with.

Always A Good Thing

It may not feel pleasant (unwanted emotions seldom do). But the way I look at it, any issue showing up always give you more information about yourself and what you’d be better off without. Right? So the appearance of a new issue during an EFT session is always good news.

Temporary Issues

One version of pop-up issues are temporary ones. They show up by seeming to pile on to what your’e already tapping on. The key word here is “seeming.” It’s an illusion that they’re really a part of your original issue.

Suddenly your intensity number can seem to go up, even when it’s been steadily dropping. These are just temporary issues. Let me explain what I mean by giving a few examples.

New Fear

A new business owner was tapping away concerns about marketing staff who were doing initial website, logo and startup work. His concerns were that they might mess everything up. The business would never get off the ground. We were tapping and his intensity number was steadily dropping.

Suddenly his emotional intensity went up. With a little questioning, we found the cause was fear about supervising future office staff. This was a brand new fear. It clearly wasn’t the original issue we were tapping on. So the intensity number didn’t apply to our original issue.

And this new fear only appeared because of new possibilities opening up — possibilities he could now see because his marketing startup fears were disappearing. So we acknowledged that he was definitely moving forward. Progress can wear some uncomfortable disguises, can’t it? A part of him was already down the road, visualizing the business and up and running with office staff on board. Excellent!

We wrote down the new fear so we could check back on it later. Then we continued to tap down the original issue to zero. When we checked back on the office staff fear, it was gone! Strictly a temporary issue.

Hindsight Sadness

Another pop-up issue I see frequently is sudden sadness. Again, this usually shows up when the intensity on the original issue has dropped quite a bit. Here’s an example of how this works:

A musician was tapping on concerns about an upcoming performance. We were using EFT to release fears, lack of confidence and self-blame about not preparing well enough.

We’d made a lot of progress, when suddenly her emotional intensity number went up. This was another case of a new emotion showing up, but this time it was sorrow. Just showed up out of the blue. She was feeling really sad that she’d been blaming herself and thought of all the times in the past when she’d done the same thing.

So we did the same routine: Acknowledge that this shows progress — right? If she hadn’t let go of the self-blame, she couldn’t be looking back in hindsight at it. And there wouldn’t be room to have that compassion for herself. Guilt and shame and scolding herself would still be crowding it out.

So once again we stopped to realize she’s seriously moving towards being completely clear of the original issue. Great!

Next we wrote down that sadness, so we could come back to it. Then we continued tapping on the original concerns and feelings about the performance — down to zero. When we checked back on that sadness, it was gone, too. Another temporary issue.

Other Types of Side Issues

There are definitely pop-up issues that are NOT temporary. But that’s another story….. Stay tuned for another post on that.

In the meantime, what’s your experience? How do you deal with these extra issues that show up during EFT? Let’s hear your side of the story, too — in the comments area below.

“Do I need permission to tap for someone else?”
“I can’t stand her. Can I tap for her to change?”
“Does EFT work for remote healing?”
“Do they need to know when I’m tapping for it to work?”

These are some of the questions you’ve been asking about surrogate EFT, or tapping for someone else. The answers are a little more involved than a simple “yes” or “no.” So let’s take a look at them.

The Right And Wrong Of It

Some people are adamant that any treatment (including EFT) must be done with the permission of the recipient — like informed consent for a medical procedure.

Others say the permission thing only applies to those who CAN say yes. So that rules out unconscious people, pre-verbal babies, people with dementia, etc.

I look at it this way: If I think a good thought about someone, or meditate on goodness for them, or do my version of praying for them, I don’t ask permission. I just do it! I figure that since my intention is good, I can’t possibly harm them, so why not?

And on the flip side, do you ask permission before you think a crummy thought about someone or gossip about them? If thoughts and words have energy (which I think they do), then where’s the consent of the receiver of your negativity?

Kinda makes you go hmmmmmmm….., doesn’t it?

Tapping To Change Someone Else

Hey – good luck with that! That works about as well as any other way you try to change another person. Unless you’re a plastic surgeon, it’s not really going to happen.

A better approach is to tap on your own feelings about the person and how you respond to them. Once you clear your own unwanted emotions, think about that person again.

There’s almost always some kind of fear at the bottom of unpleasant behavior. Maybe you could surrogate tap for them on their fear, intending some healing for them.

Distance EFT

Whether remote EFT works or not is another great question to ponder. There are many testimonials to its effective use long distance on the website of EFT founder Gary Craig at www.emofree.com. Some amazing results have been reported.

In my experience, whether it works or not depends on a variety of things. And each factor carries a different weight in each circumstance. Here are some considerations:

• How strong a connection is there between the tapper and tappee (person being tapped for)?
• How skilled is the tapper?
• Is there more than one person tapping?
• How resistant to healing (consciously or subconsciously) is the tappee?

Do They Need To Know For It To Work?

There are a couple of ways to look at this question. If the tappee DOES know there’s surrogate tapping going on, maybe their added intention of healing could help it be more effective. Some would argue that their knowledge of it happening is what’s making it work.

On the other hand, maybe knowing that someone’s tapping for you could raise more subconscious resistance to healing (AKA “reversals” in EFT jargon). Possibly that could actually prevent the EFT from working.

Not a simple answer….but I warned you about that.

What Do You Think?

Have you done any surrogate tapping? Are you for it or against it? Let us all know about it and leave a comment here.